The worst part of cheating....the emotional cheat. In my opinion a person having even so much as an email emotional relationship with another is far worse than any one night stand that could ever happen. To live with someone day in, day out...tell them you love them and then go out to another & tell them the same things is just the lowest thing any human could do to another.

Why do People Cheat?

The biggest mistake I've seen is women who use sex as a bargaining chip in their relationship. If the guy screws up they are cut off. Wrong….with holding sex to attempt to punish your mate will not only make them go elsewhere but it is probably the fastest way to push them there.

There are those who, for one reason or another, don't get the emotional support they need. This is probably the most severe reason to cheat but even this can be solved by either communication, counseling or when all else fails divorce.

Is the Grass Greener on the Other Side?

Obviously swinging is for those who have found the ultimate trust in each other-it can be a wonderful sexual adventure to share together. Key word there is share.

They accept each other for who they are & not for someone they are pretending to be. Secondly they tend to be fiercely loyal to their mate & completely honest & open with them.

So What is the Difference Between the Two?

The difference between cheating & swinging is that there is an emotional bond between the couple that swings that is supportive of each others emotions as well as their sexual desires. Plain & simple these couples are involved in this because they want each other to experience everything they might desire sexually. These couples rejoice in their love for each other & the fact that they are exploring together!

So What then….

Plain & simple the difference is emotional. Whether you swing or just explore together sexually you are doing it as a couple, as an emotional pair, not as an individual betraying your lover. For those whose relationship is solid yet you feel the call to explore, look into the swinging lifestyle. For those of you that feel the need to cheat try looking at what is really wrong with your relationship. If it's just sex try exploring with your lover & learn to revel in both the exploration & the adventure you take as a couple.