I will give a quick run down of the different ways to get into swinging. By that I mean ways to find people to swing with.

There are basically three ways to get in touch with possible swingers:
Advertising in specialist magazines
advertising on websites. Attending swinging parties, events or clubs all referred to as personals. Personals ads, swinger personals, adult personals etc.

As a beginner, going to a club might be very intimidating, especially if you don't know what to expect. But a growing number of clubs and holiday resorts have special events where they cater specially for beginners or "newbie’s". The trick here is to go to a smaller club when they have a beginner or newbie night on-go with the intent to find out what the club is like. Expect the night to be sexless and if either of you feel uncomfortable staying there - leave.

Advertising on websites is an easy way to test the waters, but because it is so easy to do, expect that most of the replies you get will lead to nothing. It is just the way it is in this scene and trust me, you would rather they pulled out before they did something they regretted. Just like you would want to have the freedom to say no.

Advertising in magazines is the most cumbersome way to find swingers, but the responses you get should be of a higher quality as it takes more consideration on their part to actually reply with a letter to you.

When you come to actually meet up with someone for the first time you are likely to be apprehensive, nervous and the female of the couple is likely to be the most nervous.

And this is why we suggest the male male female threesome.

As a relationship test, there is nothing stronger. If the man has any jealous fiber in his body, this is when it is likely to show up. If you are prepared to consider this option to get into swinging then you are also going to enjoy the other possibilities: groups, two couples swapping fully or same room sex for instance. There are as many different ways to swing as there are people and possible permutations.

By asking you to consider the male male female threesome as the first swinging experience we are basically asking the man to test his desire to actually swing. By letting his wife have the first experience he can show how committed he is to her sexual pleasure.

Of course there are other ways to get into it. There is a growing trend to start with a foursome where two couples get involved, which leads me on to one of the benefits of going to a club without expecting the evening to lead to a swinging experience.

You meet swingers and ask them questions and listen to what they have to say.

But because it is usually the females apprehension and the mans jealousy that needs to be dealt with and it is very easy to find single men, the male male female scenario.

You are of course free to choose any other option that feels right for you. For instance, socializing with many possible swingers in one night gives the clubs an advantage over advertising because of the obvious diversity and larger selection of choices.

In the end, you need to go with what feels right for the both of you.