Have you experienced an offline meeting in a swingers club or in somebody’s house where all swingers involved sat around for hours making idle conversation while looking around the room and at each other wondering who will be brave enough to make the first move? Yep that can be terribly discomforting. Hopefully, there will be at least one brave person who will take the initiative to make the first sexual contact.

But, if not, here is your chance to be more informed and assume the role of that one person. In a couple swapping situation, try sexually arousing your partner first. Get the "ball rolling" comfortably with your own partner and once all involved are sexually aroused, then swap partners. This is much easier. Of course playing strip poker or strip uno works well also.

I have discovered that many women, especially the shy ones, do not fancy sitting around, playing cards and getting naked.

It helps to initially be aroused. a female joining a couple may want to simply watch them at first before becoming involved. The same scenario is adequate for a male joining a couple.

Whatever is agreed upon by all involved is the best way to proceed.