Arrive and leave as a couple : Always arrive as a couple, and leave together..

Arrive on time : Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night will have already got underway, and you may make people who have already began feel awkward walking in late.

Be courteous : The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being courteous can help ease this.

Be friendly : Be friendly with every one, you may find you have other things in common, or they may introduce you to people who you are interested in.

Respond to all invitations : Respond to all invitations, even if you don`t plan to attend. Reply by either by a phone call or a letter, thanking them for an invite.

Never arrive empty handed : Phone the host and ask them if there`s any thing you can bring, always arrive with something for the hosts.

Go prepared : Take with you what ever you will need, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc.
If you`re sleeping over night then a sleeping bag and pillow.
Neat casual clothing and good grooming : Always take a robe or negligee with you, you will find it more comfortable as the evening progresses.

Your health and hygiene : The main thing that will turn your potential partners off will be bad breath or body odour.

Only do what`s fun for you : The whole idea is that you enjoy your self, that`s why you are in the lifestyle. Don`t be pressured into doing any thing you don`t want to, with any one you don`t want to, always say no if you don`t want to.

How and why to say no : You have the right to say no. A simple and polite "No, thank you" is all that is needed. So you do not end up doing things you don`t want to it will cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.

Don`t be pushy : If you fancy swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. If they say no, don`t carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this can do a lot more harm than good.

Alcohol: Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it can provide a good social platform to get to know people, it can also help you relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it can hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people.

Practice safer sex : The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is simple a means to protect all parties involved.

Don`t take someone to a party who is not fully informed : This is an obvious one, never take any one to a party who doesn`t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably will cause problems.

The group room is for group swinging : if you want privacy don`t go to the group room, if you take your partner with you into the swinging room you can expect others to ask to join you, obviously you still have the right to refuse.

Don`t disturb the swinging enjoyment of others : If you`re in a bedroom or the group room, don`t disturb the swinging of others with prolonged talk.

Don`t be a bedroom cruiser : Don`t walk into bedrooms, peel back curtains, turning on lights etc..

Enjoy yourself : Probably the most important one, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self.

Call to say thanks : Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it will get you invited again, and it will let the hosts know that they provided a good party.