Just like meeting anyone for the first, you have to remember, first impressions are lasting impressions.

First, the obvious, be clean, shaven, make sure your make-up is up to par and your appearance is not just acceptable but impressive. Be on time! Being late for a date is a sure sign of selfishness; after all, swinging is about sharing.

Meet somewhere in public at a dance club or local tavern. It should be somewhere that the mood is fun and festive and not dark and quiet.

At your first meeting with another couple or single from a swingers site, your nerves will be racing from the excitement and newness of it all. As you approach the people you are meeting, make eye contact and be polite, introduce your wife and yourself and smile! A smile is a perfect icebreaker.

Ask what they liked as in hobbies or things they like to do for fun, and then start a conversation about something that interests them.

First, don't be pushy! Do not walk up and say "hi how are you doing, where's your bedroom?" That is just obnoxious. Also, do not walk up and ogle his wife or her husband. Do not get drunk!

During the course of conversation, stay away from controversial topics, like politics or religion, you are there to have fun! Do not expect them to automatically want to leave and have sex.

Be friendly, treat them like you want to be treated. Have confidence in yourselves and do not be shy, as they could look at that like as being uninterested. Flirt a bit! Nothing gets the juices flowing more then a subtly look or a seductive glance. After the evening goes on, hopefully the conversations have some sexual overtones and thus leading to a possible swap for the first time! If it doesn't work out, then be gracious and accepting if it was their decision not to do anything.

Keep all this in mind if you wish to have wonderful swinger sex experiences.