Getting started with bondage and discipline play.

B&D is used to refer to Bondage and Dominance - referring to the sexual power play involved in the act of being tied up vs. playing with someone who's tied up

Bondage and discipline refer to a very broad range of erotic activities some people dabble in B&D to spice up their sex life and for others it is a full-on way of life.

Bondage includes activities like tying a lover up with silk scarves or handcuffing them, blindfolding a partner or even gagging a partner. Discipline includes things like spanking, whipping and teasing a lover.

B&D is centred around role-playing - scenarios like the naughty schoolboy and the headmistress, the police officer and the prisoner or the doctor and the patient are a huge turn-on for most of us. Do visit a dating site for more info.

B&D is enjoyed by many people because it is visually and sensually appealing, allows people to indulge in darker sexual fantasy safely and because it holds the thrill of the forbidden or taboo. The mind is our biggest erogenous zone - B&D lets us enjoy our wildest and dirtiest sexual fantasies.

Fetish refers to any particular stimulus that a person finds erotic such as clothing, objects, particular kinds of people and body parts. Dressing up in fetish wear heightens the sense of fantasy and increases the eroticism. The most common clothing and object fetishes are underwear, lingerie, gloves, jeans, dresses and mini skirts.

In toys during B&D play. Just about anything goes, that is - almost anything can be used as a prop during role-playing, you're only limited by your imagination.

The safest and most accessible types of restraints includes hand and ankle cuffs, straps or ties to secure your partner to the bedposts, kitchen table etc. and body harnesses that totally immobilise your partner..

The most commonly used discipline devices include paddles for spanking, light whips, and nipple clamps. Any kind of clamp should always have a safety release.